I've written about this before but I only mentioned it briefly. I wanted to update and expand on this subject because it's really important. You can find the link to the original blog I labeled as this topic.
This is a strategy that I have employed many times in the past. The words that we use and the stories we tell ourselves...and others about our lives actually creates them. I was once very pessimistic...oh who am I kidding? I was super depressed and had major anxiety. Some days I couldn't motivate myself to get out of bed let alone leave the house! I grew up feeling very lonely and unsupported by the universe. The mantra I had learned as a child was, "Life sucks and then you die," along with, "I am nobody, nothing, no one." If every word, action and deed creates our reality what I was creating was a 'life that sucks' and 'death.' I would tell myself this every time that I hit a set back. Then I would dwell on that set back like crazy. That was the internal story I repeated to myself...my early journals are full of statements such as, "I'll never find someone to love," and, "I'll always be alone." Wow! Talk about creating a reality that I didn't want! Yet, no one told me that my words were powerful and that my attitude about life creates my experiences. I had no other example as the people I attracted into my life were equally negative and had the same attitude that they were a victim...and that life was punishment. That produced a lot of reinforcement for the negative beliefs that I held...worse yet, when I told people how I felt they told me that I was having a pity party and I needed to "knock it off." Being told to "Knock it off," or that, "Tomorrow will be better," or any of the platitudes that people with depression or anxiety receive from those who don't have this frame of mind doesn't work. However, I am here to tell you those states of mind are not permanent and a person can transform themselves. If you find that you have a similar reinforcing negative belief system the best way I learned to deal with it was to, "Fake It Until You Make It." Now, some will sit there and say that is not being authentic. Well, this work does need to be done along with the work I've outlined as we worked through the chakras...healing the inner child, working on giving and receiving affection, reclaiming our will-power, recognizing/integrating our Shadow and learning to communicate. What You Resist Persists Three years ago when I was going through the Darkest Night of My Soul (see a YouTube video on that here: https://youtu.be/aA-OWeBtujQ) my friend Michael did a reading for me. He told me this very potent phrase and it really hit home. At the time I was resisting accepting my daughters death. I was resisting the grieving process. I didn't want to lose her a second time by giving up on her and I felt I needed to grieve to remember her the rest of my life...that I shouldn't be allowed to be happy because I hadn't fought hard enough to protect her. Here is where working with your Shadow is so important. This is a huge phase of self-healing because as long as you resist the Shadow you're going to keep subconsciously reworking the same pattern of behavior expecting a different result. This isn't on a conscious level and you may go through a cycle where you feel better even if you don't deal with your shadow. Eventually you will have something minor go wrong which will send you spiraling down the drain of despair and the shadow will be bigger and stronger then before! Usually, this subconscious program happens as a result of childhood trauma. That's when we originally start constructing our Shadow as a coping mechanism to survive. At that time we are at the mercy of our parents when it comes to constructing our reality. Once we hit 21, however, we can't sit here and continue to blame our parents. At this point, we are adults, and we have the full rights and capacity to start creating our own personal reality. We must face and integrate the Shadow...all that we have resisted, rejected and all that we have repressed for the sake of survival. As long as we resist and repress...it will control our lives on a subconscious level and we will never understand why we make the poor decision that lead us to such despair over and over again. To really get this ship corrected it's going to require an entire overhaul. Simply 'thinking happy thoughts' will not do the trick...we're are going to have to literally reprogram our thinking. Fake It Until You Make It Twice I had the rug pulled out from under me. Spirit and my soul really conspired for me to end up on the Spiritual Path that I walked and to reach this point in my life. I can see how it was my primary goal to do this work and share it. Spirit just wasn't going to let me sleep through this incarnation! This is called the Wounded Healer Archetype. I can't say that was ever my conscious intention prior to the work I've done in the last four years to ever write a blog like this one or make YouTube videos. However, since this was a life lesson it didn't come all that naturally and I really had to put in some mental elbow grease. When I left my ex-husband a broken being and when I became utterly annihilated by the loss of my daughter I didn't think things could become better again. In both cases I thought my life was over. I left my jobs, which in both cases (in my mind at least) had given me value as a person and defined me. I left the people I knew at those jobs and my entire way of life behind which was very hard. In both cases I had to start my life over completely. Going From Toxic To Healthy What I had to learn was the Fake It Until You Make It Strategy. You can't go from being an extremely negative pessimistic being to an enlightened happy peaceful being with the snap of your fingers or a magic pill (and I can say that the psychiatric drugs are absolutely not going to help you when it comes to your thinking...they will turn you into a walking zombie that makes you groggy and feel like your walking in a fog but that's it). Reprogramming your thinking take effort. You're going to have to go through the Hermit Phase of the Awakening experience and that's fine! First, turn off the news and television. Start paying attention to what your filling your mind with...have you been watching conspiracy theories on YouTube? Turn that off! Do you watch a sitcom on television and wish your life was like that...put it to the side for a little while (none of what Hollywood writes is ever grounded in reality). As they say...if you put garbage in you're going to get garbage out! The Fake It Until You Make it strategy means that when I felt absolutely horrible I had to say I was fantastic. Not because that's what other people wanted to hear (I am a rebel, I'd prefer to tell them what they don't want to hear) but because feeling that way was *MY* goal. I applied this strategy for my well being happiness and...I had to do it despite of other people because I had surrounded myself with some pretty negative ones. Again, this is reprogramming your mind. When someone asks you how you are doing and you share all of the personal woes of your life with them...you are placing an order with the universe. You are saying on a subconscious level, "Ooh, this is part of my identity, this gives me something to talk about and makes me interesting...I want more of this!" If you have a buddy at work or that you call to share all of the woes of the world with...where you compare who has it worse and who is suffering more...you're just reinforcing the negative experiences that you share with them. (This is different from venting...venting is just discussing an event that perturbed you and with the right friends they can help you see the bright side or see that you're over reacting or solve the problem- that is healthy...but competing for who has the worse life is definitely not!). By participating in such a conversation you are reinforcing the story of, "I want to win the competition for the worst life ever!" Then the universe goes, "Your wish is my command!" Then it gives you more misery...because that's what you asked for right? Miserable people always try to out do each other on the miserable victim scale...because it gives them an excuse not to put much effort into life or changing their life. Since they have an excuse they can use that to make others feel guilty and get benefits for it...usually more days off of work, their spouse shouldering most of the financial burden or it allows them to say unkind things 'they don't really mean but they're going through a lot.' Eventually you'll discover that this type of person has a label...we call them toxic. If you want a Debbie Downer in your life that's constantly saying they are a loser and they aren't ever going to get what they want...well, you're just looking to be abused. Most of the time these people are narcissists. I will admit I was utterly and completely toxic myself at points in my life. When you first start off on this path you need to cut these toxic people out of your life...especially if that's the majority of the people that you spend your time with because they are reinforcing your negative reality experience (don't worry, after you have a firm grasp on a new reality it's not hard to deal with them, although, they may try to avoid you or change you back because you're no longer on the same mental page which will make them feel very uncomfortable). Fake It Until You Make It At the heart of this strategy is doing exactly what I said...Faking it until you make it your reality. No matter how bad your day has been reply, "I'm fantastic," whenever your asked and, better yet, make it a rule to ask every person you interact with how their day is...and you will create the opportunity to tell them your day is fantastic (plus, if they are a service person such as Starbucks, A Grocery Clerk or Cashier, Bank Teller or a Fast Food worker you'll have the satisfaction of watching them react with shock, their eyes light up and 95% of the time they'll react with gratitude...and ask how your day is giving you the opportunity to tell them that you are Fantastic!) Eventually, you'll start to say this with great enthusiasm, reflexively and before long it will become true. People's reactions to that reply are startling. Some people will go, "Man I wish I could answer that way! I like you!" Some may say, "Oh really?" very sarcastically (maybe because they've never had a fantastic day in their life and they don't have the capacity to believe someone be fantastic). Some may just remain silent and try to get out of your presence as soon as possible. That can be a fun part of the experience...paying attention to who reacts to the statement in what way. Pay attention to the body language of that person because you'll notice it's the people who are either very happy or moderately happy that will respond enthusiastically to that statement. Don't you want to attract more people like that into your life...don't you want your work environment to consist of people who are happy to be there and deep meaningful relationships with happy people? The overwhelmingly positive response helps to reinforce the feeling. People may be curious to see why you can respond that way asking, "What's going on that's so good in your life?" Then you can tell them that you're starting off on an amazing road of transformation! By putting out that positive energy you will get it back ten fold. For some reason, the negative types will just flee into the shadows (however, if you dwell on the negative the boogymen will start coming out of the woodwork making your life severely difficult...and if you don't integrate your shadow it will come back bigger and scarier then ever if you experience a set back...as long as you are in that dualistic state of Shadow/Persona you're going to experience periods of joy and despair but the Fake It Until You Make It strategy can help even those out until you achieve unification). Conclusion Every word we say sends out an intention into the world...people in the spiritual community call this a vibration. The cosmos is created to respond to our desires/needs and wants without bias...it sends back to us the same energetic vibration we send out. If we focus on the negative...we will create more of that experience. Often, it does benefit in some subconscious way...allowing us the time we need to rest that we may not allow ourselves to otherwise or giving us an excuse to not even put forth the effort to try and make our lives better...because why bother if you have a self-sabotaging personality? As our mind set changes and we start to wake up to focusing on the positive...we start celebrating the small victories. Waking up every day at 8am if that's our goal instead of sleeping all day. Eating a small container of Ben & Jerry's ice cream or celebrating the completion of a new project. Celebrate the minor accomplishments and you'll graduate to the bigger ones. Eventually, you'll learn to let go of the small stuff. You learn not to sweat the small stuff or dwell on what goes wrong...wishing that you could go back into the past to change it and constantly being caught off guard when the same event occurs again. One day you'll wake up and realize you do feel fantastic...when someone asks you how you're doing you'll say, "Fantastic!" without hesitation and your life will start reflecting that...work won't be so much of a chore, doing errands won't be a chore and you'll attract extremely positive healthy relationships into your life...and that my friends is Manifestation! Now, this stage only applies early on in your Spiritual Awakening. Although, this stage is a huge accomplishment! There are much bigger and better states of mind on the horizon as we continue! Finally, here is a blog where I celebrated the success of this technique two years ago: https://bridgetkorns.weebly.com/blog/category/fake-it-until-you-make-it.
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In the world, this week has been a tough one. The fear and anxiety in our nation.
In contrast, my life is becoming more of a reflective series of synchronicity and miracles. We had the presidential debates at the start of the week which had everyone very wound up (and was a draw with both sides proclaiming themselves the winner). Sadly, I feel that there was a lack of compassion with both candidates. Neither of them told the people in the different cities that are being torn apart with racial issues or that have been harmed by Terrorists...instead they used those examples against each other showing no compassion for the people in those towns. Of course, there was another police shooting of a black person that ended up in the news. The facts about that person are being ignored, that he was a refugee immigrant that the government tried to deport to his own country would not take back, the fact that he had a long criminal record, and that he clearly took a stance implying he had a weapon that he pointed at the police officer. The lack of compassion for police officers and the danger they put themselves in every day is sickening. Our nation is experiencing polarization, I could see this coming at the end of last year based on our movies. Batman vs. Superman. Captain America Civil War. People taking sides and battling out each other for no real reason. I had a dream that the emotional water of life was being polluted. I with a few other people took up places on black boulders in the ocean where we played our song to counter this flow of poison. The media continues to try to categorize and label human behavior in defiance of what psychology states that there are too many diverse people with too many experiences with too many different reactions to assign labels or categorize human behavior. This blog is one of the ways that I defy the emotional pollution that is the current media portrayal of the United States. So, today, I'm going to share the big lessons that I learned about the Law of Attraction. Being of Service I'm going to be blunt...if you don't dedicate yourself to service to others the Law of Attraction probably won't kick into high gear for you. You might find little things such as a parking spot near the front of a store that you are going to shop at...but the big changes won't happen. For me this is huge, and I don't see it included anywhere when it comes to the law of attraction. The reason that being of service is so important has to do with the multi-faceted system that we exist within. The creator- All-That-Is- is within every molecule and atom in this universe. Everyone and everything is a part of the Creator. Naturally, the Creator can't hate himself. Naturally, he wants all of his creations to continue to exist and love one another. Just as a mother or father wants to see all of their children get along...the Creator does not want to see any of its creations turning on each other to destroy one another. To really align with the nature of the Creator/God/All-That-IS...we have to dedicate ourselves to service to others. This is because by serving others we are in tune and alignment with God/The Creator/All-That-Is. The phrase in the Lord's Prayer says it perfectly, "Thy will (not mine) be done..." We have to put our warped desire to create on our own aside. We have humble ourselves before the Creator realizing that the Creations of the Creator/Great Spirit are perfect. This opens the channel for God/The Creator/All-That-IS to act in our lives...we move over so he can shower his love and abundance on us. At the end of the day the Creator of all...that is all...doesn't want us to suffer. Yet, we have to submit that we are not as good as creating as the Creator and release control over to God/The Creator/All-That-IS. We do this by being of service to others and to the Creator/All-That-IS. Here is a little prayer I said: "Creator, please let me be a vessel through which your divine light may shine for others. I submit to you, knowing that you have the divine plan that I cannot see just as I do not know how many hairs are upon my head. You, Great Spirit, do know and I only wish that others come to know you through me so they may learn that they too can find peace." Let Go of The Outcome This is an extension of the last part...once we submit we have to let go of the outcome. This is so important because sometimes God will bring something far better into our lives when we let go. Yet, it is up to us to release the pain and expectations born of experience that we have carried in our hearts. As long as we carry that pain and those expectations into the future we will only continue to create the same outcome that we have experienced. We set the intention, "I would like X, Y and Z." Then we let go of the actual outcome. We are just putting our little prayer out there and then leaving the rest up to God. Then God, in infinite wisdom, knows that we are in a state of acceptance. Sure, sometimes what we specifically asked for doesn't happen....but when we release all expectations of the outcome...something better shows up. I sat down when I was done with all of my ex's and wrote a wish list for what I was looking for in a guy. Down to eye color. I'm not kidding on this one...there were over a hundred things I listed. Then I burnt it...I consider it a prayer and a wish that I offered up to God and that once it was done...if it happened it happened...and if it didn't it didn't...but I'd put that energetic state of anticipation out there. That's when I met Ross. He fulfills many of the qualities in that list...and some flaws that were definitely not on that list. However, he far surpassed any expectation I had for myself and had I not been in place where I was confident in being alone I probably would not have attracted him. I knew, however, that I had placed my order with the universe and I was confident that The Creator would provide. I know now that was a form of manifestation, but at the same time I didn't it all naturally. This is a natural process. What You Resist Persists This has been a hard one for me. Bashar says that all the things that are good that we want are trying to come to us but that we keep them away. All of things that don't serve us are trying to get away but we won't let them go. There is always a reason, some sort of way that a belief is serving us if we cannot let it go. Sometimes, for example when there is a change coming, it is out of a false sense of security that we hold onto limiting beliefs. I've had this huge thing with resisting fear, resisting feeling fear, or admitting when I'm scared or heeding what that might mean. I explained this in my previous blog. What I did was create a cycle. Things would get to a point where they were really really good. That's when I would start being afraid that things were going to fall apart. Then, sure enough just as I feared, something would come along and my entire life was torn apart again. This was symbolized in a dream one night, where a dragon (Fear) came to tear apart my life (albeit the life was in a virtual reality simulator so I wasn't really scared of it)...but instead of waiting for the destruction I went out to meet the dragon, he turned into a human and we had a discussion. Just realizing that I hold onto certain fears associated with the future, another pregnancy loss for example, and that based on my experience I cast those fears as expectations onto that future experience... leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy (a concept scientifically proven to exist in psychology)...has been wonderfully eye opening. I realize, those fears of the past are not something I want to project onto my future. I am starting to have that glimmer of hope in my heart again...and trust in the Infinite that what is meant to be will be through the hand of the Creator. As soon as you turn to face these fears...they dissolve and there is an expansive freedom. I realize, that I have been keeping that idea at bay...that it is my fear, because I experienced such tremendous pain in the past, that has kept me from moving forward. Now, I have been able to open my heart to the infinite possibilities that exist in that realm as I release the need to regulate and restrict by my past experiences. Fake it Until You Make It Now this one is a bit fascinating. A lot of people make manifestation a thinking activity. They say you first have to set an intention. They make boards of all of the things they want, they cut out images from magazines of what they want and they put them up on the boards. I heard one guy put a house up on his and then was amazed when he actually moved into that exact house many years later. He only meant to live in a similar house when he put it up on his board because as far as he knew the occupants of that house had been happy. He hadn't realized he moved into that exact house until he'd emptied out a box and sat in stunned silence at how amazing...and unintentional it had been...just a series of mistakes and coincidences that lead to him living in that house. Yet, sometimes it's hard to be in that receiving state. If we are in a low energy state where we are shutting out the rest of the world (I call it turtle mode) it is very hard to get back into the expansive mode of receptivity. What I've discovered is that you can fake it until you make it. When someone asks you how your day is...state that it's fantastic. Even if you're feeling terrible on the inside for some strange reason that you can't even identify...say that you're fantastic. Just by sending out that intention, in this subtle way, into the Universe the world transforms and begins to reflect back to you this idea. People react far more positively to people who say they are fantastic...than to those who start listing all of the woes and injustices that they have experienced. Then one day, without realizing the shift...you'll realize that your life is fantastic, that you are doing fantastic...and boom you're in that receptive expansive state of consciousness where the universe just starts flooding you with goodies. So, if you don't think you can get into that positive state...Fake it until you make it my friend. Don't let doubt enter (that little snake likes to block your goodies) but say this is my reality, this is my experience...and it will be... (Of course, on a side note, if you say your reality is something bad- like nothing you do can ever go right, and you keep saying that to yourself and everyone that will listen...guess what!? That's going to become your life! So be mindful of your thoughts and definitions!) Synchronicity Amazingly, as I go through this lesson regarding Manifestation, I am not alone. I have a friend named Courtney who is also experiencing these events. In her life, she went in for a massage and ended up receiving information about the Law of Attraction. Specifically, this person told her to watch the movie The Secret. Not long after she went to Disneyland with her best friend and he too told her about the Law of Attraction! Talk about a message from the infinite! She had no idea that I had been talking about Manifestation at the start of this week...I hadn't sent her that blog...but somehow we were in perfect tune with one another. A few moments after she left because her shift was over a customer came up and we were talking about being positive. The next thing I know we're talking about the book The Secret and I told her about Courtney and that the Movie is on Netflix. What really got me, and I mean just made my mind explode, is that book and that movie came out over ten years ago. I remember my favorite Starbucks manager Wayne Newmark giving it to me to read...and I've watched the movie many times. *SO* many people are waking up right now. Even as it seems the darkest elements, those who choose the Darkness are becoming stronger and that they might wipe out the light...it's simply not true! The Darkness is just simply more noisy and attention getting than the light! The LIGHT is on the rise! You can't see it on the news but talking to people day to day *it is* HAPPENING! The Great Gathering of the Eagle and Condor prophecy is happening with the Dakota pipeline- From Native Hawaiians to Mayans- they are all gathering to protect Mother Earth! The media is not covering it at all! Conclusion We may not realize it but we are living in a very important time. What we align with mentally...whether it is the Law of Attraction and Positive Thinking that I'm reporting in my own life...or the media reports of such negativity... We are making a choice this year. I'm choosing to align with the light, submit and dedicate my life to being a reflection of All-That-Is and letting go of the reigns...instead I'm just letting the cosmic energy of love that is the most basic element of creation move through my life cleansing me and carrying me to the next stage in my journey. No expectations. No limitations. Infinite possibility lies before me. Plus, since it's been mentioned so much I'm going to watch the Secret on Netflix. I will include on here one of my favorite sections of a Documentary called Tuning In that I watched years ago that covers the Law of Attraction. It is strange that I've been working with these ideas for 11 years...and it is just now clicking. |
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