I'm relying on an older blog that I wrote today because life has been very busy for me the last two week since I returned to work. This is the final of the series of blogs I wrote about "Toxic Beliefs." These are beliefs that cause people to make poor choices in their lives. Toxic Belief's can literally control and influence a person. Often times these beliefs are inherited or conditioned into a child by his parents or society.
When we are in school we learn really fast that unless you're absolutely sure you know the answer don't raise your hand to answer a question. This is why so may teachers resort to asking specific students and embarrassing them horribly when they get it wrong, questions. Most people are taught to be afraid of failure by their teachers who do not teach to inspire creativity but with the intention that everything in life has a clear answer. This doesn't teach anyone the proper coping skills for life. Most of the questions we ask as an adult don't have a clear or concise answer. Just put a Pro-Lifer and a Pro-Choicer in a room together. Soon there will be tufts of hair and claw marks on the walls but for all the efforts there is a very concise proper answer that anyone can agree upon. In a subjective world right and wrong/ good versus evil is often in the eyes of the beholder. The few things that are obviously wrong or evil are in our laws. This is why trial by public opinion is so fallible. Expecting there to be a "correct" answer to every question you might have in life...is a horrible flaw in our school system. Often times, kids won't even try some new intellectual exercise or share their opinion for fear that it will be "wrong." That is part of the reason, that Chip Foose from Overhaulin' is credited to saying that kids don't create any more. They're not taught to create, they are only taught to consume and to accept what people give them. Only proven experts in their fields are allowed to create. Sadly, if we had always had this idea we wouldn't have the marvels that Alexander Graham Bell created, or the tale of Benjamin Franklin's kite experiment or Nikola Tesla's crazy antics. We wouldn't half the things in this world if some 'academic expert' went back in time to tell the people who experimented that they didn't have enough education in a certain field to make something. Part of this is because hands on class room activities have been removed because of budget constraints. Another part has to do with the fact that Academic Schools are so stuck in their little bubbles they don't look outside of it. In Psychology we were required to learn even the failed theories and explanations for behavior. Fraud's theories were hopelessly flawed because they were so biased from his era (you would think we would learn from that!). Freud also believed that cocaine was a cure-all but you don't hear about that in any of the psychology classes where they seriously study his flawed theories (http://www.openculture.com/2014/04/igmund-freud-researched-got-addicted-to-cocaine.html). Since Academia requires everyone to think in the lines of the predecessors any radical new idea is completely and utterly dismissed. To think outside of the box and act like one of the people who pioneered (indeed in many ways created) the field of study is considered to be an insult to the Academic Institution. Thus, unless you are tucked away in some College or University somewhere studying a specific field be it Philosophy, Economics, Psychology, Physics, etc....you are not allowed to have an opinion. You're a hack. You are not credible. Creativity is shut down when it is suggested there is only one way to do things. Becoming bogged down in theory can really cause creativity to stagnant. We have reached the point where we know so much, or at least theoretically we think we have it worked out to the point of a general consensus, that we refuse to allow for a margin of error. Trial and Error All of us learn by measuring ourselves against whatever objective we have. When you're an adult you learn to cook by burning some bread. There are inevitable bad meals...either it didn't cook right or you don't follow the directions. In adult life failing is a common every day battle...unlike in school where you could sit in the back of the classroom, hand in all of your homework and hopefully never draw the attention of your teacher. Teaching should focus on having people try...and not punishing people for having the 'correct' answer. Most of the teachers I knew taught from the book and if you didn't answer exactly as the book stated...it was considered wrong. The teachers often were not capable of critical thinking skills. However, we don't come out of the womb with a textbook in which every exact detail about how we will navigate our life is written. I have trained a lot of people over the years. Often hands on experience is totally different from learning the idea of something in a classroom. I don't expect someone to know automatically how to make a latte. Even if they read a detailed book on the art of making lattes I would not expect them to make a perfect latte on their very first try. Now, they may be informed more than the next person but I don't assume they even know what a latte is (espresso and milk, sometimes served with a syrup or sauce for flavor). To assume someone will get it right off the bat is just wrong...and even with extreme theoretical knowledge I guarantee they will be uncertain that first time. Talking about doing something in theory is very different from doing. Sadly, in most classrooms there is not much doing...but a lot of talking. Doing is messy. When doing things you can be more creative. When doing things you can sometimes stumble over something brilliant that everyone else missed or didn't appreciate. Do you think that the custom car shops became popular because everyone wants to drive a custom car? No, such shops operate in a niche that no one could have predicted would exist twenty years ago. Creative people are what drive innovation and it's a group that is dying in the United States because of the prevalent Group Think foisted upon a Media and Academia that insist only theoretical experts can have a valid idea. Your Education and Job Don't Define You We've all seen it when you watch the news. The man person they are telling about whether they were murdered or they won the latest marathon...they inevitably tell you the person name and their job title. Doesn't matter if the job title is Stay At Home Mom...according to the news or about anyone else what 'you do' defines you. They never say, "Tom the laziest accountant in Moth Industries..." No, they simply say accountant and leave the rest to your imagination. By the end of the segment you have this idea that the's the most knowledgeable accountant that has ever lived and you wished you had such a firm calling. Most often then not people bumble into a career. To me, too many people expect their kids to come out of their womb and know exactly what they want to be when they grow up and how to get there. That's just an unrealistic expectation. Teachers seem to hold this same expectation. They don't allow for kids to have the room to grow and give them the opportunities for a multitude of experiences so they can choose what they like. This is why a kid can go to college with a Nursing degree...go to intern and discover they can't stand the sight of blood. Still others end up career students who bumble towards one degree to another until they've spent ten years in college and thousands of dollars in student loans...because in truth they are happy with their minimum wage waitress job and are too embarrassed to admit it. So they work towards becoming 'something better' but they never go anywhere because their calling was to be a waitress. Parents would be serve better to give their children ample opportunity for trial and error. Then when a child gets upset becomes something fails they can be coached on how to deal with failure. They should be encouraged to try multiple jobs. Unless a kid has a very specific career goal in mind...a parent should teach them it's okay to be happy with a union job stocking shelves or delivering packages. Not everyone needs to go to college. Not everyone is meant to be a doctor and most jobs don't really require degrees...or you end up working in a field totally unrelated to your degree (http://www.forbes.com/sites/johntamny/2013/02/10/sorry-left-and-right-no-job-requires-a-college-degree/#530266eb76af). Perhaps, in the 1920's-1980's when degrees were less prevalent they had some value. Now, they make a good paper weight. We all make mistakes and we are all going to make a mess when we do something wrong. We're not little robots where we get fed data for 15 years and come out perfect for one specific job and that alone. In fact, most people just find a niche, a specific thing that they do well, and by doing it well they become successful. Sometimes, that's role is something the company didn't even know they needed or the person creates an industry know one else perceived had a market. We all are going to try things that don't work out, but the art is in the attempt of trying new things. At the end of the day there is no one sitting around keeping a score card of every failure and success that you have in your life....except yourself. In fact, most people don't even need to know when and how much you failed. They judge you by the person you present to them in the moment you meet. Sometimes, as in my case, even when you technically screw up a first date mistakes can lead to the best things in your life. Trying, failing...and then getting up is what really makes life worth living. No one who is successful ever became successful by never taking a risk. That fear is how people lose everything. Not Trying Sometimes the biggest risk is simply getting out of bed to try something new. Letting go of past failures is a huge talent that must be grown. So, you messed up, no one is keeping score. Maybe you looked like an idiot the other day at a restaurant when you went to pick up a fork, your wrist came down on a spoon in such a way that you launched in straight at the head of the waitress and shew as knocked unconscious. So what? Tomorrow it will make a great story to tell a new friend. Sometimes you just simply have to try something to see how it goes. Not very long ago I went with my husband and his friend to Six Flags. I was a bit terrified of going on all of those roller coasters. A long time had passed since I had gone on roller coasters. I found that I was a little bit out of the age bracket as mostly teenagers were at the park. Yet, even though I did get a little bit bruised I had a blast going on the roller coasters and didn't even feel sick. Some of the coasters were intense. If you never try an activity you'll never know what it is like. Fear, and a rigid rulebook of what is good and evil, often causes people to fear trying new things and so they stick to the same old pattern. Even when they are deeply unhappy they cling to that pattern hoping for different results...they keep getting what they got (a quote from Collette Baron Reid). At some point, when the pain gets to be to much...that person will have a breakthrough. Sometimes they end up in a hospital or sometimes they lose their job. They didn't listen to their own feeling of suffering so they don't get out in time... When if they would have just gone maybe they would have found something better that makes them happy (although, there is a bit of a trick to that as well...because you'll never find happiness outside in the material world). Almost everyone is happy their first few months at a job. Learning something new causes the time to fly by and even though it might be stressful it's naturally fun. Overcoming Fear By realizing that everyone fails and that nothing is going to be 100% correct the first time we must attempt many activities in our lives. Sometimes, it's figuring out a way to make it as low cost as possible so the financial damage is not terrible if it fails. Sometimes, it's taking the risk of being judged such as writing this blog. My fear of being judged is one of the biggest ones that I have...I don't want people to look at I write and make fun of me. Yet, I have never had that happen. I've been writing a blot with some pretty weird stuff in it for over two years now...and not one negative reply from the people who read it. I get a lot of positive feedback but not negative. Sometimes, we just have to look fear in the eye and smile. Say hello, ask where he came from and ask where he is going. Usually, when we do whatever we are scared of...and somehow survive!- that fear fades away. Fear is a useful tool, if it's used as a tool and not a way of life. Fear allows us to know when to proceed with caution. New endeavors usually take some form of investment and we should question if the cost is worth the potential risk. Yet, without taking that chance...without doing or creating...mankind would still be living in caves dressed in animal skins barely surviving. Limiting ourselves to familiarity limits the breadth and depth of the life we have come here to experience. Further, if we never challenge the Rule Books (conditioning) that we are given by our family, parents, and society we will never know what are truly their beliefs based on their experience and our own beliefs. We are all experts on life...each hour we continue to breathe and survive we are proving our worth and right to be here. No one can take that away from us and no one can take our desire to try out new and innovative ideas or ways of thinking. If everyone worked like Robots, like drones in the Borg Collective, there wouldn't be much innovation. There is no wonder that the reason the Borg in the Star Trek series could only grow by assimilating other species ideas into their 'collective.' Their hive mind limited their creativity. This is why I reject the idea of Unity Mind. We need to focus on our individuality...and as individuals there is no right way or right path to anything. We simply have to forge forward into the unknown creating as we go, sometimes we will fall, but we will always exist...we will always survive in some form. We have all of eternity and that's a very long time. So we don't have to do it all in this life...better that we choose to challenge and grow in every direction that we feel the impulse. So go get out those gardening shears. By that Art Supply you've been staring at but fear touching because you haven't been formally trained. The formally trained people simply have more superficial 'rules' to create blind spots for them. You are free...free to create what you will the way you want to and in doing that you may just transform the world. The secret is...there is no "Right" way to do anything...and if there is a routine it's because someone else tried and failed many times before to create that routine. That doesn't make it the right way and always leaves a lot of room for improvement. Conclusion We must not allow the Fear of Failure or Fear of Being Wrong prevent us from sharing new ideas with the world or trying new activities. We need to learn, create and innovate. That is within the very nature of who we are as human beings. The most successful people feel fear but take the risk anyways while minimizing any potential damage failure might cause. There is never success if one does not first take a risk. Mistakes occur, especially on a first attempt, so we must be gentle with ourselves in the process. Failure does happen, but we have to remember that's part of the life we have come here to experience. There is a level of impermanence to everything, a level of risk, and it is because of this very tangible feeling that we learn so quickly and so deeply. If we never attempt to try new things, to offer new ideas from our own unique perspective, then we will be missing out on a huge fulfilling aspect of life. Not to mention humanity will be missing out on a unique voice. Think if George Washington had been silent. What if Jesus had remained silent and never taught the masses? What if Buddha kept enlightenment to himself? At the end of the day, there is no Right Way or One Path to the Creator...there are many broken paths that lead to our individual identity comprehending the profundity of the Universe. Each path we carve is unique. If it were anything else there would be very little point in this experience. We may not always choose easiest fork in the road. The difference is moving forward even when we've made the worst choice and making the best of it. A long time ago when I used to load trailers we would get to the end of the trailer...there would be one row of boxes left and not much room. Many of the guys would give up and try to call for another trailer...a waste of resources and time. The supervisors would call me, because I would tell them, I'll find a way. Sometimes, it was being creative, sometimes it required that I rebuild the wall of boxes someone else had created before I got there...but I always managed to fit even the very last box. The supervisors didn't know how I did it...but they called on me to do it and by sheer intention...I always made it happen. Every experience is worthy because it teaches us more about ourselves. Learning to accept being wrong or to accept failure with grace is one of the most noble things human beings can do...admitting we are wrong is very hard but nothing that humans create is perfect or permanent. I cannot fix everything. I can't heal the sick or bring the dead back to life...but that's not something I was called upon to do in this life. Each of us have our own unique talents and gifts that are just as valuable as these miraculous ones. Our unique voice and perspective contributes to the beauty of the whole. That is part of the beauty of our lives. Take the road less traveled, even if you don't know where it might go...take the advice of the 'experts' with a grain of salt. All of us are really just making up all of this as we go...all of this is just subjective and the entire world could change over night if everyone opened their minds to the possibility that everyone else might be right at the same time....on an individual basis....without the need for consensus and Group Think. Live, let be, risk/sow and reap what you have grown while causing harm to no one. Simple words that I live by in my day to day life.
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Toxic Belief 4 - We Must Have Goals
Yesterday, I sat down with a co-worker that clearly had a lot on her mind. She often looks as though she carries the weight of the world on her shoulders. She told me that she was coming to the end of the semester for her school. For her, reaching that school alone had been a huge life goal. She's nearly forty and she has never moved out of her home with her parents. She just finished her first year at a university and she has struggled. She explained how just getting into the school had been reassuring, it had been a symbol of how she is not stupid and she's not a failure...that she's going to be alright. I sat there listening in silence intrigued by this idea. By chasing an elusive dream for a very long time she has put every other aspect of her life on hold. What she sought to achieve was something her mother achieved, it is where her mother went to get her Masters, and I saw in it a repeat of a teaching from her parents. Her mother probably felt her existence was validated by her Masters degree. Now, perhaps it is because of the perspective that I have where I have a Masters Degree and discoverd, to my surprise, that my favorite job...the place I want ot be...is in a minimum wage job as a barrista. That is my zen zone and I can appreactiate every aspect of that job. My high school honors englis teacher would look down on me for this but I see that as a compliment because for all of his phiolosophical ponderings he was a buffoon I do not admire as a human being. In gaining my degree and finding fulfillment in a job I held before I had it...I have seen that a Masters Degree is all but useless. I believe that millions of people in the United States has come to this same realization, with horror, and in major debt. A Masters Degree is no promise for success and it is not a validation of who we are as human beings. Yes, it boosted my confidence but not because I had achieved it. Instead, it was because it was proof that I could over come a label I was given as a child- that I was dyslexic and would not be able to achieve anything but a general degree according to my Special Education Teachers (who couldn't process that I was also in Honors classes and why I would be deficient in one area of education and not all of them). I did not tell her this, I do not want to violently burst her illusion nor do I think she would hear my perspective for the disannonce that it would cause. She must, I have discovered, come gently to this relization on her own. You Must Have Goals Yet, society tells us that we must have lofty goals, we must be trying to keep up with the Jones's....there is only one way to find sumblime happiness. The suggestion is that if only you had the latest gaming system, the latest cell phone, a really good degree from a well-known college, or a high profile job...well, you're life will be complete. Then when you achieve this goal that is supposed to mean something according to society. The heavens will split open and welcome you into the divine embrace...yet, when that goal is acheived it is off to find the latest thing that society says you need to be complete. Society tells us who they and the majority of their subscribers believe to be successful people. My newsfeed on Facebook used to be full of "useful tips of highly successful people." All of the successful people in the world, the CEO's, the celerbities, and every other imaginable group have some helpful advice for those of us who are 'ordinary." The people with a lot of money say that the reason why the are successful is because they set ridiculous goals and then achieved them. Yet, how many of those people do you see having simple fulfilled lives? How many houses does it take to feel fulfilled? How many of these rich people have multiple homes and multiple vehicles but still are not satisfied? From the biographies I have watched and read they have never obtained Wholeness. Some, when they reach the adulation of millions, still commit suicide because they still feel that psycholgical lack. In fact, most of those who are 'succssful' people according to society are actually the sickest psychologically because it is a mental push that forces them to push so hard to be successful. They achieved what other people envy but they have not received any form of comfort and as their wealth grows they become even more disatistfied. The truth is all of the riches of the world will not satisfy them. By all accounts, Jessus, or Yeshua, didn't even own a home. There is a story that I will share with you from the Edgar Cacye readings. Jesus was given a comb, he used it and then he gave it away. He carried no possions...and this is because he knew that the "kingdom of heaven" did not lie in material possesions or wealth. Goals Are Illusions My husband is a huge goal setter. He would put a picture on the desktop of his computer for whatever his goal was at he time. He has reached several goals that would appear to be unreachable to many in our generation. Yet, every time he reached a goal he set another one. Now, there is nothing bad about this and it's a huge help when trying to set up what you consider requirments to go to the next stage of life. You can look at achieving those goals as achievements but does it bring true happiness? Too often we say that we will be happy when we reach this or that goal...only to replace it with another one delaying our ability to be happy in the Now. I won't be happy until I get the perfect ring....I won't be happy until I find the perfect man...I hear people saying things like this all of the time. I have never, other then saying it myself, heards someone look at their life and say, "I am satisfied." These goals are illusions. They are really not necessary. They can provide focus in what is naturally the chaotic process of life. Yet, we cannot be consumed by reaching those goals. To use a commonly accepted image of heaven...when I cross the veil to heaven do you think that I will be asked by St. Peter to provide a full list of all of my degrees or the titles I held in the companies where I worked? No. So why do we pursue such things with abandon on Earth and think that it will validate our existence when God does not require that of us? Appreciating The Now I used to be very angry when I didn't reach my goals. People would tell me it's about the journey and not the destination. I still despise that saying. Instead, I like to say it's about the Now. We must look at every moment that we have as the best time to appreciate life and harvest oportunity in the moment. Delaying sanctification in life for a future day when we might have what we want is a very detrimental process. Thinking we lack what we need to achieve peace and wholeness in the now is an illusion. Right now at this moment there are many options that you have that might bring you joy. For me, it is writing, at this moment that is bring me the greatest joy. Right now I am living my life to the fullest, my cup runneth over with an abundance of being able to do what I want to do, and I've discovered the more I induldge in this process the more of what I want flows to me naturally...without work, without suferring and without all of the steps we as a collective has stated we must achieve. When we make the most of individual moments by living in the Now we can start creating what we want right now instead of delaying our happiness for the future. Wholeness The issue, that most people don't realize because they do not examine their motivations for these experiences is to find validation and wholeness. Often, children learn from their parents that they are defficient, they are not enough, as they are and they go forward in life seeking achievements in the hope of gaining their parents approval. We have seen, with the recent generation, that giving recognition when nothing has been accomplished has also been detrimental. Children who get rewards without earning them know the falseness of it and start to think that merely showing up for work on time daily means they deserve praise even if they fail to fulfill the obligations of their role. This teaches us a lot about this Toxic Belief and the Illusion that it is tied to it in life. The reason most people seek outside of themselves is they do not feel complete in the very essence of their being. There is a very big black hole in the very center of their being and they are sucking in all of the information, praise, gifts and material succsses in an attempt to fill that void. Yet, that void will never fill with objects and achievements in the outer world. Kids who are given everything they want and all they want still have this hole but they have no desire to seek because they have never had to try....they lack the motivation and catalyst that will drive those of us with broken history's into self-examination. My Path As I have stated before there are many paths in life and each person has their own path to walk. No two paths are alike just as like no fingerprint is alike. I chased this illusion for many years and tasted what should have been success according to society. As I achieved the fruit of my work at every level of achievement it was very hollow. There was nothing filling about it, no peace, no wholeness....and so I turned my eyes to the next task that might validate my existence. The Inner Path, of self examination inevitably leads to the idea of Service To Others. Strangely, when you are able to look within and find a completion or wholeness within yourself....there is an overflow of genroisty that flowers within the heart where it is inconsciousable not to share with others. I, for one, believe that there is an illusion of seperation within this world. The blackhole we experience in our life and our insatiable desires comes from an intrinsic link to the Source/God/Creator/All-That-Is/First Emanation that is always there when we are in Spirit. This sense of lacking then manifests itself in the need to achieve something to validate our existence in the eyes of others who are also looking and focused on that self-validation. The only way to overcome this Illusion of Seperation is the realization that we are not seperated from God/All-That-Is in any such way. That we are always within and a part of the mind of the Source. We can never be seperate, we have chosen the seperation in order to learn more of ourselves and to create individuality but it is just an illusion because nothing can exist without Source. This point of view has been inevitably denied by Christian thought leading to a lot of suffering. I have heard them condemn the Gospel of Thomas where it is claimed Jesus said in Saying 30: "Jesus said where there are three they are without God. And where there is only one, I say I am with him. Lift the stone and there you will find me. Split the wood and I am there." (This passage, based on my own epiphanies, suggests that where a person has not united their Mind, Body, and Soul as one...instead of seeing them as seperate entites...he is not there. That God/the Source is in all things. The idea that Jesus believed that all were one within the mind of God also eliminates the idea of the convuluted idea of son/father/holy ghost. Yet, that is a discussion for another day. =). ) Conclusion We don't have to set and achieve goals to be happy. No amount of personal achievemate can make us happy...they are but inanimate objects. There is not really a choice to pursue materlaisim or to be happy. The difference is a belief in Seperation, between us and the rest of creation. That sense of Seperation and Supermacy are illusions. We have all that we need right now. Creation does not hold back abundance to any of us, much as the Lily in the field does not worry what it will wear tomorrow because it trust that Creation itself will meet all of it's needs. To pursue happiness int his moment in whatever way is available in an abundance of choices is always an option that we have. This is so obvious that most people miss it, beacuse we as humans like complicated systems. If we choose to wait, the universe will allows us do experience life that way. However, life is structured for us to choose happiness right now by pursuing what makes us happiest to the furthest of our ability in the moment. This lead to the creation of even more abundance and a plethora of moments of happiness. Taking pleasure in the small items of every day life, in that space, is where you can find true happiness, peace, comfort and wholeness. Not in some distant goal you might achieve or possessing an inanimate object that is supposed to impress others in order to validate your existence. In this moment, right now, this is where you find happiness because you choose to find reasons that exist in your life right now that make you happy and fulfilled. Yes, it really can be that simple...unless you are happiest when things are complicated and involves suffering. Some people are that way and I will leave them to that because it is their sacred choice to be that way. I have no place to judge anyones personal path. For me, I have chosen to find happiness in the simple day to day pleasures that I experience.
This is probably the belief that caused me the most suffering.
One of the things that we are taught in the early years of our lives are absolutes and to discourage abstract thinking. This means that there is only one way to do things, only one path to God, only one way to go about living, only one way to achieve success, and so on through a plethora of subects. In this point of view only one religion can be correct. This also allows for only one person to be right in an argument. Yet, as I will discuss in a future post regarding Personal Rulebooks, we know for a fact that ANY situation can be viewed in multiple ways with a multitude of interpertations. This goes far deeper, but this is why eye witness testimony is questionable. Even watching a video of a crime can be interperted multiple ways depending on the angle and duration of the video. Does the video show the entire event, for example? There are always at least two sides to every event, often times the "reality" of it is somewhere in the middle. After all, as I said before, life is more or less subjective (entirely interperted by the observer) and not absolute in it's form. That is why each of us have our own individual realities and when we compare/contrast that reality with others we create a third reality that is shared. We, during this process, effectively create our reality as we interpert the data we perceive. Absolutes Don't Exist The problem is that absolutes don't really exist. We find the solution for this apparent paradox when we consider the nature of what God must be. God, in my best interpertation, is best described as All-That-Is. Now there are people who will absolutely reject this, they prefer that there is a man riding a cloud in the sky in another dimension looking down upon all of us, judging all of us and punishing all of us accordingly because guilt has automatically been assigned to us as human existence is a punishment for the misdeeds of our ancestors. I can't really help you if that's what you prefer to believe and I find that to promote a great deal of self-hatred and dischord within the minds and hearts of human beings. How can someone who hates themselves, who is at war with themselves, ever find peace? After all, your mind will be in a constant state of war, self-hatred, self-judgement and condenmnation...the opposite state of peace. All by choice. You give power to what you choose to believe and each belief must be examined...does this really reflect how I feel? Does this promote love within my heart? Does this belief bring me peace when I think it? If it does not...it is not serving you. Your mind, your consciousness was created by God to serve you. All-That-Is created you in his image. Nothing is Permanent Nothing in our life is permanent, nothing stays with us very long- not our friends, even family cross over at some point, not objects and not even the very cells within your body remain the same. The cells in our body are constantly being replaced. Nothing in this world is permanent. On a level of the atom everything is a bunch of paticles, floating loosely together (with space in between no less) and yet somehow a piece of wooden furntiure appears to have cohesion and solidity to our human eye. We can run our hand along it and if we punch it our bones may break while our skin cracks and bleeds. Yet, five years from now you might not have that piece of furniture. You might punch it every day...and yet, one day you decide you don't like it and you sell it or give it away. That piece of furniture then ceases to be in your reality. As far as you are concerned it ceases to exist. Thoughts Are Not Solid While the above reference with the piece of furniture represents a solid thing we can touch...thoughts are not solid. Thoughts are not solid within the mind of a person unless they choose it to be so...and I'm not talking about emotions. Emotions are temporary states that serve us as instinctive warning signals to help guide us to make the right decisions. Thoughts, what we believe to be true and use to interpert reality last far longer then emotional states. We hold onto thoughts, we nourish them, we return to them polishing them up and adapting them as we revisit them time and time again. We beahve a certain way in our interactions with others because of that thought. That which we hold as "truth" impacts the way that we view and interact with the world. Yet, they are not real. They are as phantom in their existence as the Northern Lights. You can see the play of the Northern Lights up in the sky but if you flew up there to touch them...you would find that they are not solid. You cannot take a bit of the Northern Lights home with you. The Northern Lights interplay of light and shadow change each time that they occur. They are never fixed...they are born and die every night giving a new display. Paradigm There is a natural human process where we create a "house" out of our thoughts. In this "house" the world is defined by very set paramaters. This little box that we make for ourselves encompasses beleifs and ideas that we have been taught by other people and interwoven with our own experiences. For those that are not exposed to diversitity, that are surrounded by people who are in agreement and think the same way...this "house" can be very one dimensional. There might not be many rooms or many doors or even yards...it is a simple structure. This type of pardigm isn't very creative and it takes the world very literally naturally placing ideas into ROOM A and ROOM B. A Paradigm is the way that people approach life, the thoughts that they project onto reality set an expectation for a set of experiences. When that paradigm is challenged it can cause a lot of pain and suffering. Here is the definition of paradigm: A typical pattern or example of something, a model. All of us start creating our little model "Thought House" when we are kids. As kids we take everything as absolutes and literally. We are only able to think in more abstract terms when we are adults and as adults it's important for us to examine this "House of Thoughts", question the buidling materials and the very nature of the way we perceive reality...or we can choose not to do so and remain in our Childhood Paradigm. Thanks to Free Will the choice is ours...remain in the childhood paradigm or examine it as an adult to create something new. Most follow the easy road of holding to their childhood "House of Thoughts" refusing to examine themselves (for fear of what they might see and fear of experiecing unpleasent emotions) and few seek the inner path of self-examination. This was the way even in Jesus time as he said in Matthew 7:13 "Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad the way that leads to destruction and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the way that leads to life, and only a few find it." Experiecing Disannonce Disannonce can be your best spiritual teacher. If you choose to move through this uncomfortable feeling, to expose yourselve to what is not known or ideas that are not familar...your paradigm, your "thought house" will expand....to the point where you realize it won't even be neccesary anymore. There is absolutely no need for seperation between you, via a "thought house" or "paradigm" and all of creation but that is a more advanced teaching I don't want to get into here. But first, what is disannonce? The problem is when we try to make our thoughts solid. When we say this is the truth and the only absolute Truth....and worse yet- is when we decide that a certain bundle of Truths is all that exists then compare it to someone who believes differently. The idea of "My Way or the Highway" is extraordinarly dangerious and painful both for the person unwilling to bend their mind in a new way and for the person they are trying to force into compliance with their paradigm. Nothing has been more destructive in the human experience then this self-limiting methodologial approach to life. Since Beliefs are not solid, you cannot show them to another human being nor can they expereience the exact same set of experiences you've had in your life that cause you to believe they are solid...you can't make someone believe the same exact way you do. That is impossible and anyone who claims to think exactly as you do is a liar...to you and themselves. If someone challenges your belief, and you have built your house on the sand that there is only one truth and one way, the house you have built within your own mind experiences an earthquake leading to pain and suffering. People don't understand you! How horrible! You must make them understand, you say in youthful insistence. By words or by fist you must make them see what is so 'obvious' to you. Psychologists call this inability to listen to another person truth that is very different from your own: Dissannonce. When you hear a point of view so radically different from what you consider to be Truth or your Paradigm (thought house) you cannot place it within this house. You hae no context in which to place it and so your mind cannot process the information. You will, literally, not be able to hear or comprehend this "truth" that is outside of your paradigm. Their words literally sound like incomprehensible noise. Disannonce Example Take for example someone who grew up listening only to the oldies...just the oldies and believes all other form of music is inferior. They won't even consider listening to other music. Then you play System of a Down for them. First, they will only hear bits and pieces of the song because they are not used to following this type of music. They will hear mostly noise. Based on appearances they will judge the band is singing about people committing suicide and that it's over all a negative song. Well, this was done with a group of older people who watched Chop Suey by System of a Down (one of my favorite bands). Those unfamilar with the band latched onto certain things they thought indicated what the song was about and decided it was negative. They missed the symbolic meaning of the lyrics by reacting fearfully to the way the band looks and the few words they can follow. Beacuse they were experiecing diasannonce they didn't consider that there might be a deeper meaning which is about spiritual searching and profound...if you have the ears to hear. (If the video doesn't pop up below click here to see this example: https://youtu.be/KTX5PruTHkE. ​ Labels Are Make-Believe Things are not always what they appear based on our first knee-jerk reaction to them. Labels, often are one of the walls people put up between themselves and the rest of the world. They define themselves by that label and assign themselves to a group that seems to think or behave like them. If you entered their paradigm, and looked into their "Thought House" the name of their label would be in big bold word across their door. Proudly, they exclaim, "I am this," without truly identifying themselves as an individual identity. This excuses them from the idea of being a mere "human." This differentiate them from other groups them but at the same time removes their need to be an individual. Do you think that Bluebird knows that it's a bluebird and thus different from all other birds it encounters? Probably not. Birds have no use for names or labels. Do you think a lily in the field knows you call it a lily? Do you think that causes that flower to perform the functions of growth and decay any differently? Probably not. The bird just goes about doing what it does to meet it's basic needs with little worry to the title that mankind has given it and the flower continues to grow into the best flower it can be regardless of what we call it. This is how I see labels. They mean absolutely nothing. They are a made up concept that we have created to divide ourselves from others and they are absolutely unnecessary. Do they provide any significant positive role in our society? Do dividing ourselves into groups with labels bring love, unity and peace on an individual level? "A house divided upon itself will fall," such is the Fate of Mankind unless we can drop the need for labels. I believe labels dehumanize people. We are one people, we are not divided into predator and prey in the Evolutionary Theory paradigm...nor are we different in any other way. We each are capable of producing the same amount of abundance and well being if we choose to do so but we pick "our battles" when we chan choose the path of Acceptance. We stop seeing the unique individual faucets of humanity when we assign a group label to people, suddenly they are not unique but a member of a group. They are a faceless robot assigned to the Label they or society has chosen for them. Labels, much like the rest of human existence is just make believe...a rule we have agreed to that we can change at any time if the majority of us so wish. Yes, there might be people who cling to the old definitions but if the majority moves with that idea they will soon be swept along with the current of thinking. Let the "Thought House" of labels disintegrate as you realize that even within groups there are individuals, unique, beautiful prisims that reflect the divine light of All-That-Is. Instead, when you look at those cliniging to labels and group identities you see can see people who are divided in their own hearts painfully rejecting their uniquness and individuality. Thinking In Absolutes Produce Limitations When we set absolutes, when we insist on the way we will accept things, we limit the breadth an depth of our experiences. This naturally constricts the way that the Creator and the Matrix of the Creation can interact with the individual. We have a two bedroom "House of Thoughts" while the universe is infinite and unlimited. If you absolutely refuse to accept anything but one outcome...you become blind to other outcomes that might be even better. You actually limit yourself and become trapped in your own expectation. When you practice being open to all possibilities you invite a multitude of opportunities into your "thought house." Eventually, as your "thought house" continues to expand you become aware that it is not neccesary. That all "thought houses" are valid in unique individual situations and neccesary for the individual to retain their identity while they learn and until they choose to work to expand themselves. Conclusion - Plenty of Room We must release the idea of holding onto absolutes and narrow "thought houses" (paradigms). These limiting beliefs constrict our spirit which is the same infinite source from which all of Creation emanantes. Until we release these "thought houses" through a self-exploratory expansion we will be at war with ourselves and the world. If you choose to be at war within yourself and the world you are, in effect, arguing with Creation and the Creator. When you try to force your view of the world on others, to bend creation to your will, you are defying the Creator and demonstrating a lack of trust with the Creator. This has been, for me a very long process to reach the point where my paradigm has effectively dissolved. This is a far advanced point of view then what most people are capable of perceiving. That's understandable. The best way to describe all of this from my point of view, is that their is plenty of room in infinite creation in this moment for everyone to have individual unique beliefs, thoughts, and ideas. There is no reason to judge these individual unique thoughts or ideas when you reach the point where the need for a "house of thoughts" to categorize creation is dissolved. Things simply are, they arise into your perspective, and then they fade away when you have learned from them. There is no need to hold onto ideas, thoughts or even memory. Most are so trapped within their "Thought houses" they inflict pain as they travel through the world and when you're own "thought house" is dissolved you can see that, assess what beliefs are most likely causing them pain, but out of deep respect for the learning process they have chosen to go through you don't intervene or provide aid unless asked directly. Sometimes, in the desire to present relief without invitation, mistakes happen. Concepts too advanced for their level of learning are introduced and they suffer more because of the confusion and disannonce. The reason I have reached a place of non-judgement is because I understand that each step of the process is neccesary and just important as the level I have reached (in truth there are no "levels" or "steps" but that's how we tend to relate things so it is easily to visualize it this way). The amount of pain people need to reach in order to "Wake Up" to the nature of Creation is up to the indivual, the path and the routes they take is up to the individual...which is entirely beautiful and fantastic in every way. I didn't think non-judgement was possible, when I started this journey. I didn't think that was a possibility, my paradigm was very narrow, but now that we earch chart a course to be reunited with the Creator/God/All-That-Is in whatever way we wish...and that all of us that choose to be Seekers and turn to the Inner Path of self-knowledge fall off that path at some point. We are not "perfect"by design. I just want to explain, that if you are not there yet, keep going but it is possible. There is still discernment, "I do not want to be around this or around this person," but it's not judgement and no desire to change others or affect others. ​ Post Script Here is one that I saw recently. Here is a kid who believes that he will be disowned by his friends...that he will be treated differently. He owns it by putting a seperation between him and others by wearing the Storm Trooper helmet. They, however, decide to accept him for his uniquness and then emulate him. Most of us are doing this, we use our fandoms to create a wall between us and the rest of the universe. Within our fandom we feel safe with people who think like us who are delighted by concepts that we enjoy. Yet, again, this is a way we misplace our identities by hiding it behind this fandom....because we are afraid of our unique flaws, differences, struggles and gifts. The next toxic belief that I wanted to cover is the idea that Change is Bad.
When life fell apart around me and I left my ex-husband after a very bitter year along with very confusing events I fel likt I had lost everything. The life that I had spent five years building was completely in tatters. I had to leave a job that I loved doing and the people that I had come to consider family. The same thing happened when my daughter died, everything changed and I fouund myself without a job afraid to get out of bed because I struggled to conceive the scope of what had happened. I discovered, that first time my world was torn asunder, that everything falls apart. There is a fantastic book called When Everything Falls Apart by Pema Chodron. I highly recommend it, because it really gets to the heart of what the idea that we are programmed to fear change. There is this concept that this reality is solid, when it is not as solid as we think, and that we won't be able to cope with the unknown. The truth is life is always changing. Life is always in flux. Nothing is solid or for certain. Our body is literally not the same that it was 7 or even yesterday as we take in different nutrients every day. When we forget that life is impernanent and constantly change we argue with the nature of reality...which in a way is arguing with God. This is very exhausting procedure. We create, it falls apart, we grieve and then we create again...often going into the same cycle. Stepping Into the Unknown Most people remain with what they are comfortable. The devil that you know is far more easier to deal with because you can predict how things will be...but if it's a constant cycle of pain is it worth it? The most magnificent part of life is when we face a new circumstance no matter how daunting it might appear to be...for the sheer joy of the experience. Yes, it can be scary because you can't predict what might happen. Yet, to experience and to grow we must constantly reach out and measure ourselves against the unknown. We must constantly reach out to new ideas and information. If we stagnant we will have an inherient discomort, because experience, and learning by measuring ourselves against the unknown is what really brings meaning to our lives. If I tell you I stayed home and binged watched Arrow...I don't think it's all that admirable (although, I'm totally guilty of that one!). Yet, if I tell you that Ross and I drove over 400 miles on the Harley to Denver Colorado....well, that's something not everyone does. Yes, staying home binge watching Arrow is safe...but that Harley trip represents a tremendous amout of challenge, stamina, and purely being in the moment. With binge watching you're viracriously experiencing an artificial reality...but I can tell you on that road trip I was very much aware of everything. I was aware of the kevlar jeans that I wore, the helmet on my head, the various layers we wore (as we traveled through rain and snow), the weather, and the terrain (we are so blessed with beauty in this country). Was it risky? Some people are so afraid of the risk they won't ever get on a motorcycle let alone ride one. Did we survive? Yup, there was the slight suffering of soar thights but that's it! Change Is Growth No matter the nature of a change it inevitably leads to Growth. Our souls, in my opinion, thirst for that Growth and experience. Even when it's a bad experience, it is an experience and we learn something new. When we don't challenge ourselves against the unknown we remain stagnant. Our ability to think creatively literally fades away. The ability to think out of the box, unless we challenge ourselves, does seem to fade. With each new experience we discover what we do and do not like, we discover a better approach to a situation, a new flavor or a new taste. Once we learn to savor these experiences, perhaps they will be stories we tell friends and families for years to come...you start to welcome them instsead of fearing them. I have seen some really horrible things, I've had really horrible things happen to me and yet somehow the next day the Sun rises. Life goes on. We might loose absolutely everything we have but for some reason, the world continues as though (even if some do) no one has noticed your slip up. I think of it this way, sometimes we mis-speak. If we are around a jerk suffering from low self-esteem they might point it out and pick on it. Decent people either know, intuitively, what you meant or just continue as though you didn't miss a beat. I think, if someone notices and points it out, they are probably paying too much attention to you because they can't focus on themselves without feeling empty. So, such people should be pitied. This is what happens when we stumble in life even if it is an epic fail. Life goes on and the good people in your life will support you through the experience and be there for you through it all. If we do not approach the unknown we simply remain in a self created little box too fearful to peak out at the infiinite amount of possibilities that our life holds. Fear of the Future Too many people are afraid of the future because they expect change to lead to bad experiences. They hold within their mind all of the possiblities that they fear most. Strangely, these fears manifest thanks to the process known as self-fulfilling prophecy. Learning to let go of those fears is a difficult thing, we think that we must gurad against them at all cost least we suffer more but it is holding onto those fears that cause the suffering. We inevintably create what we fear and fixate on the most. Fearing the future is like fearing ones shadow and then becoming so fixated by that outline we never move again. We become a concrete statue that people look at in wonder but don't necessarily admire. We cannot assume anything about the future because it is a blank canvas. We create the picture that is depicted on that canvas based on our thoughts in the now. Instead of focusing on the blank canvas we need to work with our emotions and thoughts that we have at the moment. This will lead to healing that will allow energy that was trapped by those old emotional wounds and fixated fears to become available for us to apply now. Conclusion The future is a blank slate. Change is a necessary and completely undeniable part of life. As long as we think that change is inevitably bad and we try to prevent it...we will struggle and suffer with life. Change is growth and part of the cycle we choose to experience very deeply when incarnating on this plane of existence. Instead of fearing what may happen we must embrace the possibilities. In the deepest heart of the darkness, in the blackest part of our night sky that scientits thought insignificant is where we found the cluster of galaxies that boggle the imagination. Black contains all of the colors of the rainbow, so mixed that they are not differentiated and so it represents the ultimate womb of creation and potentials. When we look to the future and we fear the darkness...we must remind ourselves that it that holds the most potential rich with experiences and ideas that we have not perceived. We need to focus on our actions today and let those potentials exist beyond our conception. We are building the future with every act we undertake in this moment and every intetion we have when we make our decisions. We must give each moment our full attention to savor it and explore it's full potential so we can experience a much richer future that we can imagine. This is why I say that we exist within a nexus, the energy of our actions in the now brings us the potentials that we really want because we acted instead of focusing on a fearfull protective approach. As long as we fear change we will have a self-fulfilling prophecy in which we continue to experience a chain of events, we create futures, that we do not like. Embrace the power of change and work in the moment to create a better future. Accept what you currently have and start working with that to the best of your ability. The circumstances will then arrive where you are naturally offered the best next progressive step forward that the universe has to offer. There is no reason to experience a lack of abundance, save that you create that lack within your mind, and then subconsciously act out that scenario unintentionally. When you focus on what you lack you often miss out on appreciating what you do have. One of the most toxic beliefs that I have dealt with and worked on has been that some emotions are not okay.
In our society there are two types of emotions that are acceptable in public- Happiness and Anger. There is not much judgement if someone expresses they are "pissed off" at another person, especially men, and everyone prefers a happy person. I have said, in previous blogs, that sometimes we have to Fake it until we Make it with being happy. Expressing how depressed we are with other people will just push them away. In expressing only discontent with life we will subconsciously create more via a psychological Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. We will only attract people who are equally unhappy. Often we try to hide our sadness, our grief, our anger or even fear from other people. All of these emotions are considered weak but each of them is immensely valuable during our life's journey. I am in no way saying that does not mean that we are not allowed to feel these emotions. In fact, I encourage people to immerse themselves totally in feeling emotions that comes up and to explore the feelings that they have. Doing so in public is not acceptable in our society but there are many ways we can pursue this on our own and with trusted friends. Suppressing Emotions Does Not Work I used to think that I was very good at suppressing my emotions and I was proud of that. I tried to keep a clear head in traumatic or stressful situations. I froze out my emotions and didn't really experience them. I believed that people who were balanced all of the time that showed very little emotion were mentally healthy. We see this portrayed in the movies all of the time with the stoic general or president outlining the plans to save the world. The problem is that you can't ignore emotions. They will pop up in other ways in our lives and when they are denied they will emerge as something very negative later on...what I consider a Wake Up Call from spirit. For many of us our emotions will be expressed with our appetite if we do not consciously acknowledge them. My friend Jennifer recently wrote a blog, coincidently that she published yesterday as I was writing this that explains Emotional Eating: (http://observationsfromasimplelife.blogspot.com/2016/12/emotional-eating-recognizing-it-and.html?spref=fb). Over eating and under eating can both be connected to suppressing emotions. Instead of being comfotable feeling the uncomfotable emotion we express them by over eating to comfort ourselves or under eating to punish ourselves. If we ignore our emotions for a long period of time, and express them in unhealthy ways, it can lead to a variety of health problems. Obesity and anorexia are just two ways that unexpressed emotions can manifest themselves in a persons behavior. The inability to have stable relationships is another way that emotions can be channeled in an unhealthy way. Often, when we have an emotion that we can't deal with we project it onto someone that we know. Most often, it is the people that are the closest to us because we know that they probably won't leave. When we unleash the entire onslaught of unexpressed emotions it causes the other person to wonder where the angry tirade came from...when it was really another emotion from an entirely unrelated situation such as grief over not being promoted or a feeling of helplessness from watching the news. Emotions Are Road Signs Emotions have a very significant role in our lives. I, personally, believe they are one of the ways our soul intuitively knows something about a situation. Often, because of being conditioned by society we ignore the more uncomfortable emotions. Later, when a situation didn't go as planned we find that we had a terrible feeling before we committed to it. The thing is that Emotions are often not logical. In our society, where we often pretend we are robots in a mechanical universe and not people...we don't like that because it introduces a variable that can't be weighed or measured. I have discovered, in my own personal life, that my emotions are road signs indicating which way I need to go. If I'm feeling uncertain about a situation I sit down and write out how I feel about the different options that I have. I pay attention to the emotions that I have as I consider the possibilities. For example, if I am considering attending a party I look at both options and how I feel about them. Option A: Stay At Home....I feel positive, I'm a little excited to have time to read a book I recently bought, relaxed, and only slightly guilty for not going to the party. Option B: Go To Party....I feel sick to my stomach. There are some people I know I won't like who are there. I never really feel comfortable when I'm at that person's house, the food is usually disgusting, etc. Sometimes it's the opposite. I find whatever option I'm excited about that invokes positive feelings is the one that I should choose. I challenge you to test this in your personal life, because when I started using this technique to make decisions I experienced a huge change in my level of satisfication with my life. Too often I was doing things to try to please other people and it never brought me happiness. Paying attention to our own intution by being in tune with our feelings can lead to a much more fulfilling life. Exploring Emotions Sometimes an emotion comes up that doesn't make sense. Recently, I've felt very rejected in some interactions I've had. I decided to explore the emotion in my journal. The emotion felt very irrational. What I discovered is a deep seated feeling of rejection that started when I was a small child. Part of it comes from when my mother was looking to discipline me. She had a lot of rage that came out when she was spanking me. Then in third grade my best friend, named Julia, decided she wasn't my best friend anymore and became best friends with the new girl at school named Jenny. Both girls rejected me and teased me horribly based on faulty assumptions. The emotion of sadness that popped up was a signal that I needed to work on these childhood wounds. Learning how to heal and let go of old burdens is incredibly important. Healing Emotional Wounds The best way that I have discovered to heal emotional wounds is to express and explore the emotions we felt. As I child I didn't fully understand the emotions I was feeling and why. Sometimes, this involves a long conversation with one of my best friends. Exploring the topic in a blog is another way to acknowledge that emotion. Another thing I will do is draw something- often times in an abstract way- that expresses that emotion. Ultimately, I do not seek approval from others while exploring an emotion. That is a very important revelation that I experienced. We have absolutely no reason to justify our emotions to other people. Second, if you work on a emotional wound pamper yourself. You deserve a reward for doing this hard work. Stay home in your jammies, enjoy a cup of hot chamomile tea, buy a slice of chocolate cake and watch Disney movies all day...engage in whatever activity nurtures your soul (that does not have negative side affects such as drugs, over shopping, over eating, etc.) The trick is to do this as a reward, not a constant activity, and to reprogram (recondition) your mind to associate dealing with these 'unpleasant emotions' with positive reinforcement. A spoonful of sugar, as Mary Poppins said, makes the medicine go down in a delightful way. I've learned by simply acknowledging and working to express an emotion (especially those I could not give voice to when I was a child) heals the emotion. The emotion will simply evaporate as I reintegrate the energy that had been struck within my conscious mind...and I feel more energized during my day to day activities. Emotions are like mirrors, they show us what it is within ourselves that is a little off. Just as you have to adjust your sail in a boat according to the pattern of the winds, we must pay attention to our emotions and adjust our course accordingly. Wake Up Calls As I have said, I have not always been good at paying attention to my emotions. I completely froze them out for a very long period of time. What I found is that when I didn't deal with an emotion it came up as a major medical Wake Up Call. One of the major issues I often have is sticking up for myself in situations where people take me for granted. I find that often when this happens I end up having problems with my throat. This week, as I dealt with this issue of rejection that came forward in my conscious mind as an emotional wound I needed to heal, I put off working on that feeling. I didn't write in my journal to explore it and I didn't do any of the other activities I normally do...then I promptly had a really sore throat. Sometimes, when we ignore our emotional needs it will lead to other problems. Especially if we have been working non-stop. Emotions will pop up as a marker that we need to slow down and if we don't we will get sick or injure ourselves in some way to ensure we do take time out to rest and relax. Conclusion Emotions are a major tool that the Creator has given to us. Through our emotions we can intuitively know what direction to take in life. We can be given warnings that what we are currently doing is not beneficial. Also, we can catch conditioning that we might have learned as a child and even Emotional Wounds that we need to heal from childhood by paying attention to our emotions. A very insightful statement I have heard recently is that from the age of 1-7 we learn the 'rules' of how our world works. That is when we are conditioned by our parents and society how to interact and respond to the world. Sometimes, what we learn during that time is not correct (in fact, I've learned a lot of what I learned wasn't) and we have to re-program how we think. Emotions are wonderful helpers in doing this work and giving us a clue as to what we need to heal in order to have a healthier and happier life. Ultimately, I believe that we are meant to be happy the majority of the time. We often carry around a lot of baggage from our childhood that needs to be healed, however, that keeps us locked in circular negative patterns that we repeat. Each loop we complete upon this negative pattern causes the problem to become larger and larger until we have a HUGE Wake Up Call that we cannot ignore. Yet, we have this amazing emotional ability that can act as companions upon the Road of Life. All Emotions should be savored and appreciated. Each time an Emotion comes up now I say Thank You...because I see it as a companion and a helper that the Creator gave me to navigate and find healing in my life. |
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