I've decided to write a series of blogs of the Markers on the Path that most people seem to experience.
Really, these were the Markers that were really important on *My* Path. No two paths are the same. They are as unique as the individual who walks them. As such, I wanted to clairfy a few concepts and then give you examples of them and examples of other people who have had a similar experience. Letting Go Of Expectations This was the most liberating of all of the stages that I went through. True, this was inspired mostly by Bashar's Formula. (Channeld by Daryl Anka). The way I see it, most of us are so focused on the 'I' in life...we sit here and say..."I want this," "I expect to be treated this way," and "I wouldn't do it that way." We live our whole lives ways waiting for other people, places, and things to be exactly as we expect them to be...but life would be very disppaointing and not very exciting if it was that way. We've had authority figures tells us what they expect out of us. Our parents, our teachers and our bosses all have expectations they expect us to fill. We feel that when we don't live up to those expectations we let the people we love most down. Religion has the highest expectations out of us. They don't expect us to be humans. Teachers are the only ones who punish us when we fail. There is a lot of suffering because of expectations. There is no wonder why we are so used to them. We expect that we should have the American Dream. Some people who have struggled to attain the American Dream for themselves would like to see it taken away from people they see as less deserving. The rich don't deserive their privelage. The poor don't deserve to live in homes they haven't earned. Our lives are formed of expectations based on a system that's not written down. Most often that system is pleasing other people we like or admire and attacking others who perceive as attaicking or taking from us first. Most often we have material expecations in life: to own a car, to own a house, etc. We have expecations of others including of what love should look like. Releasing Expectations Brings Freedom Expectations is one of the boundaries that we experience in our lives. When we hold onto expectations about ourselves, things we want, other people and our future it limits the opportunities that may come to us. Further, when we hold onto expectations we are living in a fantasy world. We are living in the future which does not exist or onto the past that not longer exists. We are not present. We are not here or now. When we live in this way we limit the structure of that future. There is the idea of Manifestation on the Spiritual Path. People have been able to manifest a lot of things and they usually focus on physical results and money. However, if you sit down and release all forms of expectations you will find a sense of freedom. You're no longer limiting your life. Usually, there are a few things that preceed this stage. I'm still learning how to practice it but it is the most applicable to most ordinary life. Yet, it can be a little tricky because it is so different then what we are taught. The key here is to release expectations...because most of the time these expectations never belonged to you in the first place. They pollute your energy diverting it to areas where you won't see progress and it keeps you from living in this moment. In this moment you can plant the seeds for a better tomorrow but only if you are fully present. Ultimately, when you release all expectations you experience the ultimate freedom. You live in the Now. You live in a pure state of possibility. This is a very brave action. How Do I Let Go Of Expectations? Well, you identify them first. You can list everything you expect in life in a journal of every aspect of your life. If your letting go of expectations from a specific person in your life (eventually, you need to let go of all expectations for all of the people in your life) write down all of the expectations that you had for them. If it's a goal that you have held onto for dear life but just hasn't panned out (probably because it was only meant to be a stepping stone to what you really are supposed to be doing) then write out every expectations and reason you had that goal. If you can, identify where they come from and why you have it. Identify how those expectation makes you feel right now in this present moment. Then release the expectation. If it helps, you can envision them taking the form of a bird that you release. The bird flies away taking your expectations with them. Eventually, you won't need these tools. You'll catch yourself setting expectations, reminding yourself that you do not need them and letting them go. This is a form of meditation. This will become easier and easier. This is very similar to how I learned to meditate. I would have a thought and release it. I would have an emotion, feel it deeply, and release it. This is the same practice just applied on a different level. You do not reject or deny. You embrace it fully, experience it fully as thought it were a foregin object you never encountered before and let it go on it's own way. Different Quotes Here are some quotes on Letting Go: This is from the Wisdom of Avalon Oracle Set From Collette Baron Reid: "Releasing attachments, expectations, and desires yet unfulfilled- these are some of the aspects of this card. When you receive this marker on your path, you're required to relinquish control and allow the Mystery to act as the will to weavelife together as it is meant to be, according to the laws of the cosmos. You cannot force something to come, or remain, if it is true place is elsewhere. Remember that what is yours can never be taken away. Allowing is the key to this marker, for what is yours will come to you. The same applies to the past: This is the time to let go of old hurts, resentments, and unresolved anger, for they're no longer welcome burdens on the path ahead. Old and outmoded ideas about life, how you see others, who you are, based on who you were- these must also be left behind. Then you can move forward, unencumbered, stepping into the magic of the new present that leads into the best possible future." Bashar Channeled By Daryl Anka Provides This Formula 1. Take Action On The Opportunity that Contains The Highest Excitement 2. Act on The Excitment To the Best of Your Ability 3. Act On The Ecitement With Absolutely Zero Insistence Or Assumption With Respect To The Outcome. *Undestand that insistence on a specific outcome, manifestation or pathmay actually prevent a better maniffestation then you can imagine. *The thing itself that excites you may not come to fruition. It may only excite you to get you to take action in order to create the state of being in which the thing that actually needs to manifest may do so. You can find the full document here: http://bashar.org/handouts/TheFormula.pdf There is more to it then what I provided here but I wanted to emphasize the part I'm talking about in this blog. So, when it comes to number three you can re-word that as Letting Go of All Expectations of The Outcome. The reason being is when you visualize an exact outcome it can prevent what you really need from coming to you. If your focused on only one thing...one thing at all cost...and the universe has deemed this is harmful for you...you'll just spin your wheels. Letting go of expecations means you don't know the outcome, you don't know what will serve your higher purpose but you have faith that something bigger then you does. Of course, a Peak Eperience or Trascendental moment here and ther emight help you believe in something bigger...but even the biggest cycnics and critics have experienced them but in their Subjective Reality cling to explainations they are comfortable with...even seeing a UFO won't convince them. Just like the recent disclosure in the New York Times didn't affect anyone () You may not be capable of imagining what you really need...but Spirit does know and will provide...if you let go of the expectations. Pema Chodron When Everything Falls Apart "A teacher visited me during this time, and I remember her saying to me, "When you have made good friend with yourself, your situation will be more friendly too. I had learned this lesson before, and I knew what it was the only way to go. I used to have a sign pinned up on my wall that read: 'Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annhilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.' Somehow, even before I heard the Buddhiste teachings, I knew that his was the spirit of true awakening. It was all about letting go of everything." pg. 7 Purge Negative Traits I watched a you tube video by Cindy Griffith of the Edgar Cacye A.R.E. and I realized that she was talking about Letting Go. She used far harsher terms but she's made this her 'life's work' which it probably will be her entire life revisiting this idea over and over again until she 'gets it' because she's excluded so much else that might give her a broader view of the topic. She was marking out how four mystics had said that they obtained Oneness (the Sacred marriage). She outlined it as containing these steps in no particular order: Purge Negative Traits and Take on Positive traits. Sense of Passionlessnes (peacefulness) Prayer, Meditation and Contemplation These three things were the major steps and she said these lead to Spiritual Maturiy or Spiritual Union (the Sacred Marriage). I think it's really importat that we choose our words carefully when we are talking about these subjects. Saying that there is a need to Let Go of Expectations is so much more approachable then saying something has to be purged. When we purge something we repress it...we think, "This is bad and this is not something I should have." Yet, if it were not natural and necesary in the moment we would not experience it. So, although her concept is correct in some ways it is harsh and may lead to discomfort in some. Conclusion Well, I was inspired to share this because it is such a touchy subject. I fall back on the Buddhist path and what Bashar says in some things because they are gentle teachings. There is no particular order in how you go about the Path of the Seeker but I do want to lay out these Markers so other people can see them. To me, it's common sense, but I'm aware that it's been obscured through time by those who don't understand who are trying to interpert the concepts.
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